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The 12 Days of Sexy Christmas is a relationship challenge for married couples. It's designed to be both fun and to promote intimacy to improve your relationship. It's not going to be easy though, this will be a challenge that you both need to be up for.
Here are the rules. In order to complete the challenge successfully you must:
- Complete 1 or more of the daily tasks
- Complete 10 or more days
- Have fun and grow closer
Note: You can start your 12 Days of Christmas challenge on the 13th and end on the 24th, or follow the more traditional interpretation of Christmas Day to the Epiphany (January 6). Or feel free to modify it for your own use (12 Days of Sexy Christmas in July anyone?)
Day 1 - Treats
Something Sweet
Get each other your favorite treat. Whether it's candy, ice cream or soda, getting them their favorite treat is always a sweet gesture to show them that you care.
Something Fun
Why not bring your treats with you into the bedroom? There are all kinds of fun things to do with sugary treats, see what you can come up with to make things more fun.
Something Sexy
Try out the Missionary position or browse all positions.
Day 2 - Compliments
Something Sweet
Make sure to get in a few good compliments today. Compliment them on how they look or how good a spouse they are. Come up with some well thought out and specific compliments and make sure you let them know.
Something Fun
Go lingerie shopping together or just pick something up by yourself and present it tonight. Make sure you tell her how good she looks with (and without) it on.
Something Sexy
Try out the Cowgirl position or browse all positions.
Day 3 - Service
Something Sweet
Today's focus should be on how you can serve your spouse. Maybe you could take their car and get it washed. Or fix that thing that's been on the honeydo list for months. Pick something that will be sure to make them happy.
Something Fun
One thing that's great to serve up to your spouse is yourself! Put on a striptease for them. Really play the part and have fun with it.
Something Sexy
Try out the Spooning position or browse all positions.
Day 4 - Affection
Something Sweet
It's important to show your spouse affection, but make a special effort to do so today. Hold hands. Cuddle. Hold them tight and kiss them all over, go out of your way to show them more affection today than usual.
Something Fun
Give each other sensual massages. Rub their back, neck, feet and everywhere else. Don't be lazy and give up after 3 minutes, make it count and focus on making each other feel good. Don't be afraid to ask for what you want.
Something Sexy
Try out the Doggy Style position or browse all positions.
Day 5 - Surprises
Something Sweet
Surprising your spouse can be really exciting for both of you. Find a way to pleasantly surprise them today. Do something unexpected and spontaneous for your husband or wife today and make it memorable.
Something Fun
How about adding a blindfold into your bedroom routine tonight? Not being able to see can make things exciting due to the anticipation for what will happen next.
Something Sexy
Try out the Octopus position or browse all positions.
Day 6 - Poetry
Something Sweet
Today's activity is a little different and will focus on poetry. Write your spouse a poem, or read love poetry together. Maybe find a poem that explains your love and get it framed. Focus on the words that describe how you feel for each other.
Something Fun
Maybe you could extend your poetry reading into a bubble bath together. Enjoy the closeness as you read or recite the poems you experienced earlier in the day.
Something Sexy
Try out the Reverse Cowgirl position or browse all positions.
Day 7 - Health
Something Sweet
Today you should focus on your health. Try something new to do together, such as going for a walk or playing tennis. Maybe you could make some healthy smoothies or commit to stop smoking or drinking. Talk about how a healthy lifestyle can strengthen and extend your lives together.
Something Fun
Dancing is a great activity that's both healthy and fun. Why not make it even more fun by dancing naked? Dance either for each other or with each other, it doesn't really matter.
Something Sexy
Try out the Right Angle position or browse all positions.
Day 8 - Gifts
Something Sweet
Giving gifts is a great way to show them that you care. Today you should each find a gift to give to each other. Give yourselves a budget so the gifts don't wildly differ in value and focus on getting them something special, memorable or useful.
Something Fun
Everyone loves getting a good gift that they need, but sometimes it's even more fun to get a gift that you'll both enjoy. Why not try something sexy like edible lube or fuzzy handcuffs? That'll make things interesting pretty fast.
Something Sexy
Try out the Slow Dance position or browse all positions.
Day 9 - Memory Lane
Something Sweet
Today should be all about yesterday, or the days, months or years that you've been together. Take a stroll down memory lane by looking at your old wedding pictures or video, or photos and mementos from when you were dating. Remember how you met and fell in love and try to relive some of those days again.
Something Fun
For fun tonight put on a fashion show for each other. Dress up however you'd like and walk the catwalk like you own the audience, cause you do. Have fun with it and tell each other that you still got it.
Something Sexy
Try out the Shuttle position or browse all positions.
Day 10 - Quality Time
Something Sweet
Couple's often don't spend enough quality time together. Today go out of your way to make time for each other. Maybe you could go out for a lunch date or out to breakfast. Put your phone down and talk to each other, or don't turn on the TV for a day. You're married to be together, so make it a focus to be together as much as possible today.
Something Fun
If it's too hard to make time between work, school, chores and the kids, maybe it's just time to take the day off. Set all those things aside for the day, they'll be there tomorrow. Make time for what's most important, and that's each other.
Something Sexy
Try out the Betty Rocker position or browse all positions.
Day 11 - Helping Out
Something Sweet
Taking care of life's responsibilities day after day can get old. Today make it a point to help out your spouse with something they need to do that's difficult or annoying. Do one of their chores without mentioning it or find a way to make their day just a little easier.
Something Fun
All the chores and mundane parts of life aren't the only parts. Spend a little time having fun together by playing a sexy game. Check out our selection of bedroom games or play another you own or even make something up.
Something Sexy
Try out the Leg Up position or browse all positions.
Day 12 - Love Notes
Something Sweet
Hopefully you've been able to stick with the challenge for most of or all 12 days. To finish up strong, make sure you tell your spouse you love them. Try to let them know in a different way than they're expecting. Maybe write a long love note and leave it on their pillow. Or you could write small love notes and leave them around the house or packed with their lunch. Whatever you do, don't let the day go by without letting them know you love them.
Something Fun
Have a romantic candlelit dinner or bring candles into the bedroom tonight. The soft light will help set a romantic mood and let you focus on your love for each other.
Something Sexy
Try out the Lotus Blossom position or browse all positions.
