How to Avoid These Common Marriage Problems

Marriage problems - they’re something that no couple wants to face, yet all married couples will face some type of conflict in their relationship at one time or another. Although marriage problems aren’t uncommon, you don’t have to face them unprepared - or let them ruin your marriage. The following is a guide on how to avoid the 5 most common marriage problems.

#1: Lack of physical intimacy

A lack of physical intimacy can cause a rift in any marriage, especially if it is a long-standing issue. A lack of physical intimacy can make a spouse feel unloved, unfulfilled and even increase the chances for infidelity.

To avoid this problem, make sure that you and your spouse have regular physical intimacy. If you have a difference in libido or intimacy needs, have an open and frank discussion or consider going to a marriage counseling to help you resolve the problem.

#2: Poor communication

Poor communication is another common problem in a marriage. Poor communication leads to frustration, misunderstanding, and even serious conflict.

To avoid this problem, you need to learn how to effectively and regularly communicate with your spouse. This may take some time, especially if you aren’t good at communicating about these kinds of things, but it is essential for a healthy and happy marriage.

#3: Nasty arguments

If you and your spouse have ever had a nasty argument, then you can easily see why they are a serious marriage problem. Ugly arguments involve yelling, name calling, pulling in old arguments and ultimatums - the works.

To avoid this problem, you and your spouse need to create some boundaries in regards to disagreements or conflicts that can include limitations such as: no yelling, taking a walk or going to another room to calm down, or resolving to shelf a conversation until you can both calm down to discuss it more peacefully.

#4: Disagreements regarding finances

Financial disagreements are another common marriage problem. Disagreements regarding finances can include disagreeing about long term goals, spending habits, how much income goes towards certain items in a financial budget, and more.

To avoid this problem, you and your spouse need to get on the same page in regards to finances. This means sitting down, talking about goals, creating a budget together, and resolving any differences in regards to money problems in an effective and compromising way.

#5: Not sharing the mental load

Finally, not sharing the mental load is a common marriage problem that most people don’t realize exists until it has done serious damage to their marriage. The mental load refers to all of the things that people need to mentally track in order to keep a marriage, household, work life and family life intact.

For instance, the mental load includes: keeping track of doctor’s appointments, noting what food needs to be replaced in the fridge, creating weekly menus, remembering to take the kids to sport’s games, etc.

To avoid this problem, you and your spouse both need to equally share the mental load. This is easier said than done, but the outcome - a much healthier, happier and less stressful marriage - is well worth it.