When Your Husband is No Longer Interested in Sex

A sexless marriage can be a frustrating situation for both spouses. But what do you do when your husband is no longer interested in sex? The following tips will help you understand what may cause a sexless marriage and what you can do when your husband is no longer interested in sex.

What causes a decline in sexual interest?

The first thing you need to do is to understand the primary causes for a lack of sexual interest from your husband. Understanding the reasons why your husband is not interested in sex is important when it comes to addressing the situation. The following are the most common causes behind a lack of interest in sex.

Physical libido decline.

Your husband may be experiencing a decline in physical libido which in turns results in a lower sex drive. Libido decline can be caused by a variety of things, including but not limited to the following: medications, physical illness, hormone imbalance, and aging. New medications, physical illness and even aging can all cause a libido decline.

Lack of sexual attraction.

It is not the easiest idea to face, but if your husband is not as interested in sex, it is possible that he may be feeling less attracted to you sexually. A decline in your husband’s sexual attraction for you could be related to changes in your physical appearance, such as weight gain, changing your personal style, and so on.

Feeling stagnant/stale in sexual relationship.

It is possible that your husband feels that your sex life is stale and boring, and is therefore no longer interesting enough to participate in. When he feels that your sex life is same-old-same-old, it can be hard for your husband to maintain interest.

Desire for more emotional/intimate connection.

It’s possible that your husband is less interested in sex because he feels that the emotional, intimate side of your relationship is currently lacking. Your husband may feel less fulfilled in your relationship from an emotional perspective, which in turn decreases his desire for physical intimacy.

What should you do when your husband isn’t interested in sex?

If your husband is not interested in sex, then you need to follow the below 3 steps.

Communicate your concerns

Healthy communication is important. You need to sit down with your husband in a neutral environment - meaning not the same evening when you’ve just been rejected for sex - and discuss your concerns openly.

Discern the reason for declining interest

While you communicate, you and your husband need to work towards finding out the reason for his declining interest in sex. It’s important to allow your husband to be completely honest without openly judging him.

Work on resolutions and compromises

And finally, once you know the reason behind the lack of interest in sex, you and your husband can work on resolutions and compromises based on what you have found out through your discussion. It may take time, but with proper communication and compromise, you and your husband will be on the right track.