The Importance of Foreplay

Every married couple knows the importance of sex and intimacy in a good marriage. But there’s an important variable that often gets skipped when making time for lovemaking: foreplay. Now you might think, “We’ve been together for so long, and we know what we’re doing. In fact, I know her body even better than she knows it herself. So why not just get right to the best part?”

The truth is, however, that foreplay is the best part. It’s the appetizer before the main course, the opening act before the main show. Foreplay builds up the anticipation so that when you do reach the actual act of sex, you feel as though you couldn’t wait a second more. Here are a few tools that happily married couples use to spice up their foreplay in a new and interesting way:

Play games

There are plenty of fun games that you can use to spice up the beginning of your bedroom routine. Play dirty truth or dare! Choose fun or flirty tasks for the other person to do. It’s a great way of exploring new sexual things you like so much you may end up keeping! Or, try downloading any number of foreplay applications on your phone designed to provide fun and easy ways to communicate your desires to each other.

Explore each other’s bodies

Touch and explore every inch of each other’s bodies. You may think you know where your husband likes to be touched, but with an erotic all-body massage you may find new and unexpected erogenous zones that even he didn’t know he had. A thorough and enthusiastic exploration will help you better understand where the other person likes to be touched. Pretty soon, you’ll be an expert in pleasing your spouse!

Role-play

Sure, you’ve already crossed all the bases and made it to home run. You’re married for Pete’s sake! But that doesn’t mean you can’t experience the process all over again. Role playing helps you to use your imagination. You can recreate your first time, pretending you’ve never encountered his body before. Take your time, go slow, and savor every single moment. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can’t make every kiss like the first one.

Make it verbal

Some of the best foreplay is all in what you say. It starts at the beginning of the date, builds during dinner, and comes to a peak right when you get to the bedroom. Dirty talk is a huge turn on for most married couples, and it’s a sure-fire way to get things hot and heated before the actual act. Don’t feel self-conscious about the things you say. After all, you live and you learn! Make it up as you go along, and practice will make perfect. The more you talk dirty, the better you get at it until eventually verbal foreplay will be a built in part of your bedroom routine.